Guys, Heed This Advice

Recently, a number of things have compiled to set in motion this blog.
Personally, I don't think that most guys realize that some of the things they say, no matter how subtle the remark, hurt their girls. Even your FRIENDS that are girls feel this way at times.
Face it guys, we are sensitive creatures. And we really don't want to hear how your best friend's wife makes the "BEST nachos ever".
Sounds silly, right?
We know.. But sometimes, we can't help the reactions we have.. I mean, sure, we can hide it for awhile, but eventually it just builds up, and one day we might just break and angrily scream about it.
Because I know that you guys have NO IDEA that what you said made us mad, I'll post a little help for you.

1. DO NOT compare her to your sister. Adopted or not.-(Don't laugh, I know people who do this.) We don't want to hear about how she's so much better at handling everything about you than we are.

2. Don't make plans before you go to work and then come home and decide that you don't want to, you're too tired, etc.-By this time, we're already excited, so we've come home early,(or never left) and we're already dolled up. So when you come home, we're expecting to do what we planned. Hearing your excuses just drives us insane. And if you're a guy who does this alot, good luck, honey. See what WE withold.

3. UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCES, do you talk over her when she has something to say.-This causes severe aggravation, annoyance, etc. Frankly, it just pisses us off. We listen to what you say, now it's your turn. And if what we're saying is important, this just makes us never want to talk about anything like that ever again. We'll take it upon ourselves to decide. You wanted a plasma screen TV in the game room? Highly doubt you're getting it.

4. If you get into a fight, and she runs off, give her some time, then go after her, or call her to see if she's okay.- Guys, we WANT you to come after us after awhile. Or else it just looks like you don't care enough about our well-being to check on us. We're probably fine, but it doesn't hurt to make sure. I shows us how much you care.

5. When you feel the urge to look up old high school friends, don't try to hide it from her.-This just makes us more suspicious. And it's ridiculous. And for the love of God, don't recall to us every detail of that one weekend... We don't want to hear it!

6. If stories of her ex's make you mad, angry, or uncomfortable, DON'T tell her stories of YOURS and expect her to be okay with it.- Take your feelings when she told you her story and magnify it by times 5. That's how we feel. And we tend to get more jealous, because while we might not know THIS person, we know someone LIKE her. And that makes it all the more painful to think about.

7. Do not loudly proclaim that you are deleting a text message, picture, file, etc.- Ever heard of the old adage, "Curiousity killed the cat"? Well stuff like this not only makes us curious, it pisses us off, and gets us to thinking, "What was that? Why did he delete it? Why did he loudly SHOUT that he was deleting it?" This is probable reason not to trust you. And to go through any and all of your suspected things. Sure, you deleted it. But that makes us think, either you have something to hide by deleting it, or makes us wonder what you did to come in possession of said media.

8. If your "other" dislikes your mother, father, sister, etc., and says something about them, do not go and TELL this person.- Handle it yourself, tattletale. You're a big boy. In a nice way, be like, "Baby, you know that they can't help it." Or something non-confrontal like that. I'm sure that there's a reason, and if you jump back to #3, you can find out what it is.

9. If you have stories about your friend who is a girl, or your sister, and they involve your friends, co-workers, and others close to asking for her number or saying that it's your loss because you're not dating HER, please for GOD'S sake, DO NOT tell your "other" in a way that makes it seem like you regret not doing what they're talking about.- Convey it in a way that gives the information of the story, but doesn't make it seem like you're pining for another. Makes US feel worthless..

10. Don't ignore her "I Love You's" because you're watching TV, reading, trying to sleep, etc.- You have a mouth. It takes 2 seconds to say it back. She'll love you forever for making the effort to say it, no matter what you're doing.


That's all for now. Check back later, and I'm SURE that there will be more up.
Have fun!!

-Brittany